10 Struggles ( I Think ) Most Introverts Can Relate To

There are two "types" of personalities: introverts and extroverts. It's really more of a spectrum than a hard-stop one or other, but introverts are known to feel most energized / at peace when spending time alone, and extroverts thrive off of being surrounded by others.

I'm a big time introvert, and it can make life really challenging at times. If you're a fellow introvert, you probably know the struggle. If not, I'm about to lay it all out for you.

Here are 10 struggles ( I think ) most introverts can relate to:

Job interviews & networking

Job interviews and networking are the literal most anxiety-inducing thing as an adult introvert. Something about having to go talk to strangers who are judging you on your professional capabilities is just so nerve-wracking and energy-draining. When you crush a job interview or make a really great networking connection, though, it's such an amazing, relieving feeling!

Going to a social event alone

Going to social events alone is just a hard no from me. Walking into a room full of people, especially if they're strangers, is such a scary thing to do as an introvert. Even if you know one person, it's terrifying to only know that one person. If you're reading this and you aren't an introvert, I feel like you might be judging me really hard right now, but this is my truth ok !! Fellow introverts, back me up!

Being left alone at a group function

This one goes hand-in-hand with the above. Say you do find the energy and courage to go meet your one friend at a large group function—you're hoping to god the entire time that they aren't going to leave you alone. And if they do, you have to try to come up with small talk ( an introvert's worst nightmare ), but if we're being honest, you most likely resort to panicking, getting on your phone, and feeling like a POS loser until they come back. I'm telling you, man, introvert life is a struggle for real.

The first day of anything

First day of school, first day of your new job, first day of a work conference—you name it, it's a struggle. First days always come with meeting a TON of people and trying to gain your bearings on what you're supposed to be doing. Almost every "first day" I have, I end up with a migraine by the end of it. I feel so lame as I'm writing this, but I know some of you can relate and I feel for y'all because same!

Getting tired quickly

Introverts get tired really quickly because being around others and spending energy on socializing saps our energy. We thrive off of alone time in the comfort of our peaceful abodes. I will almost always choose staying home over going out. The sheer thought of going out and socializing can be tiring in itself. Hell, I choose to shop online 99% of the time now because I don't even want to mess with a trip to the mall. The process is just so energy-consuming!

Making friends as an adult

I said it above, but I'll say it again: small talk is an introvert's worst nightmare. I get so nervous when I'm around someone new that my brain is literally incapable of thinking of something to say, and then I just think about how I can't think of anything to say, and then the whole thing feels really awkward and uncomfortable. This isn't always the case, but 80% of the time, it is. Because of this, making friends as an adult can be really hard! It's not like it was when we were in school and had clubs and sports practices and all that. As an adult, you have work, and anything beyond that is up to you as far as making friends goes.

Staying at home too often

I feel like I've made my point about preferring to stay at home rather than going out, but let me really drive it home: nine times out of ten, I will happily choose to stay at home. This is true of events with strangers and events with friends, sadly. I'm usually much more willing to go out if it involves friends, but if it's an event with mostly strangers, you can ( unfortunately ) expect me to pass. I say unfortunately because I know I should push myself out of my comfort zone, but it's easier said than done.

Not knowing what to say

Mentioned it earlier, but this is a huge huge huge struggle for me. Not knowing what to say to someone I don't know very well is something I've struggled with for as long as I can remember. I can recall being in elementary and middle school and being around people who intimidated me, which automatically made me feel that much more unsure of how to make conversation. I think people probably thought I was stuck-up, but I literally just couldn't come up with anything that felt "right" to say. I'm not as bad at it now, but I still hate forced conversation.

Being the center of attention

My wedding day, as wonderful as it was, was also incredibly exhausting. I was literally exhausted by the time we got done getting ready and were leaving for the ceremony. Once the ceremony ended and we finished taking photos, I told Tyler I wanted to just go home. Insert discomfort emoji here, lmao. Being surrounded by a huge group of people as the focal point of attention is the most exhausting thing of all as an introvert, in my opinion.

Feeling lame for being an introvert

I feel like LITERALLY THE BIGGEST LOSER as I'm writing this, but I know that I'm not the only introvert who feels the way I feel about all of the above. As weak and small as being an introvert makes me feel sometimes, there are some really great introverted qualities as well. Introverts are known to be great listeners, self-sufficient, observant, driven and disciplined, in-touch with their emotions, enjoy engaging in deep discussions, and want to make the most out of our days. We may have fewer relationships, but the ones that we do have are very strong and we are very committed to them. Certain things about being an introvert can feel debilitating, but we have some pretty awesome qualities on the flip-side as well.

Are you an introvert? If so, do you relate to any of the above, or not so much? If you're an extrovert, what's your perspective on introverts? I'd love to keep the conversation going in the comments!

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